Part
3 - Chapter 4
ABOUT
THINGS TO BE DONE ONLY BY THE MAN, AND THE
ACQUISITION OF THE GIRL THEREBY. ALSO WHAT
IS TO BE DONE BY A GIRL TO GAIN OVER A MAN,
AND SUBJECT HIM TO HER
Now
when the girl begins to show her love by
outward signs and motions, as described in
the last chapter, the lover should try to
gain her over entirely by various ways and
means, such as the following:
When
engaged with her in any game or sport he
should intentionally hold her hand. He
should practise upon her the various kinds
of embraces, such as the touching embrace,
and others already described in a preceding
chapter (Part II, Chapter II). He should
show her a pair of human beings cut out of
the leaf of a tree, and such like things, at
intervals. When engaged in water sports, he
should dive at a distance from her, and come
tip close to her. He should show an
increased liking for the new foliage of
trees and such like things. He should
describe to her the pangs he suffers on her
account. He should relate to her the
beautiful dream that he has had with
reference to other women. At parties and
assemblies of his caste he should sit near
her, and touch her under some pretence or
other, and having placed his foot upon hers,
he should slowly touch each of her toes, and
press the ends of the nails; if successful
in this, he should get hold of her foot with
his hand and repeat the same thing. He
should also press a finger of her hand
between his toes when she happens to be
washing his feet; and whenever he gives
anything to her or takes anything from her,
he should show her by his manner and look
how much he loves her.
He
should sprinkle upon her the water brought
for rinsing his mouth; and when alone with
her in a lonely place, or in darkness, he
should make love to her, and tell her the
true state of his mind without distressing
her in any way.
Whenever
he sits with her on the same seat or bed he
should say to her, `I have something to tell
you in private', and then, when she comes to
hear it in a quiet place, he should express
his love to her more by manner and signs
than by words. When he comes to know the
state of her feelings towards him he should
pretend to be ill, and should make her come
to his house to speak to him. There he
should intentionally hold her hand and place
it on his eyes and forehead, and under the
pretence of preparing some medicine for him
he should ask her to do the work for his
sake in the following words: `This work must
be done by you, and by nobody else.' When
she wants to go away he should let her go,
with an earnest request to come and see him
again. This device of illness should be
continued for three days and three nights.
After this, when she begins coming to see
him frequently, he should carry on long
conversations with her, for, says
Ghotakamukha, `though a man loves a girl
ever so much, he never succeeds in winning
her without a great deal of talking'. At
last, when the man finds the girl completely
gained over, he may then begin to enjoy her.
As for the saying that women grow less timid
than usual during the evening, and in
darkness, and are desirous of congress at
those times, and do not oppose men then, and
should only be enjoyed at these hours, it is
a matter of talk only.
When
it is impossible for the man to carry on his
endeavours alone, he should, by means of the
daughter of her nurse, or of a female friend
in whom she confides, cause the girl to be
brought to him without making known to her
his design, and he should then proceed with
her in the manner above described. Or he
should in the beginning send his own female
servant to live with the girl as her friend,
and should then gain her over by her means.
At
last, when he knows the state of her
feelings by her outward manner and conduct
towards him at religious ceremonies,
marriage ceremonies, fairs, festivals,
theatres, public assemblies, and such like
occasions, he should begin to enjoy her when
she is alone, for Vatsyayana lays it down,
that women, when resorted to at proper times
and in proper places, do not turn away from
their lovers.
.
Swami Veet Chintan T'Zorba-Krsna
Jyotish
Shastracharya
& Vedic Astrologer of India
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