Part
5 - Chapter 1
OF
THE CHARACTERISTICS OF MEN AND WOMEN. THE
REASONS WHY WOMEN REJECT THE ADDRESSES OF
MEN. ABOUT MEN WHO HAVE SUCCESS WITH WOMEN,
AND ABOUT WOMEN WHO ARE EASILY GAINED OVER
THE wives of other people may be resorted to
on the occasions already described in Part
I, Chapter V, of this work, but the
possibility of their acquisition, their
fitness for cohabitation, the danger to
oneself in uniting with them, and the future
effect of these unions, should first of all
be examined. A man may resort to the wife of
another, for the purpose of saving his own
life, when he perceives that his love for
her proceeds from one degree of intensity to
another. These degrees are ten in number,
and are distinguished by the following
marks:
*
Love of the eye
* Attachment of the mind
* Constant reflection
* Destruction of sleep
* Emaciation of the body
* Turning away from objects of enjoyment
* Removal of shame
* Madness
* Fainting
* Death
Ancient
authors say that a man should know the
disposition, truthfulness, purity, and will
of a young woman, as also the intensity, or
weakness of her passions, from the form of
her body, and from her characteristic marks
and signs. But Vatsyayana is of opinion that
the forms of bodies, and the characteristic
marks or signs are but erring tests of
character, and that women should be judged
by their conduct, by the outward expression
of their thoughts, and by the movements of
their bodies.
Now
as a general rule Gonikaputra says that a
woman falls in love with every handsome man
she sees, and so does every man at the sight
of a beautiful woman, but frequently they do
not take any further steps, owing to various
considerations. In love the following
circumstances are peculiar to the
woman.
She
loves without regard to right or wrong, and
does not try to gain over a man simply for
the attainment of some particular purpose.
Moreover, when a man first makes up to her
she naturally shrinks from him, even though
she may be willing to unite herself with
him. But when the attempts to gain her are
repeated and renewed, she at last consents.
But with a man, even though he may have
begun to love, he conquers his feelings from
a regard for morality and wisdom, and
although his thoughts are often on the
woman, he does not yield, even though an
attempt be made to gain him over. He
sometimes makes an attempt or effort to win
the object of his affections, and having
failed, he leaves her alone for the future.
In the same way, when a woman is once
gained, he often becomes indifferent about
her. As for the saying that a man does not
care for what is easily gained, and only
desires a thing which cannot be obtained
without difficulty, it is only a matter of
talk.
The
causes of a woman rejecting the addresses of
a man are as follows:
* Affection for her husband
* Desire of lawful progeny
* Want of opportunity
* Anger at being addressed by the man too
familiarly
* Difference in rank of life
* Want of certainty on account of the man
being devoted traveling
* Thinking that the man may be attached to
some other person
* Fear of the man's not keeping his
intentions secret
* Thinking that the man is too devoted to
his friends, and has too great a regard for
them
* The apprehension that he is not in earnest
.
Swami Veet Chintan T'Zorba-Krsna
Jyotish
Shastracharya
& Vedic Astrologer of India
.
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